Many parents take time to realise that some things are not worth fighting over and Kelly details this in a great, humorous way:

Butterfly (16) flitted around all day, preparing for a weekend retreat up north with her church youth group. A nice thing about parenting teens is that they can pack for themselves. A difficult thing about parenting teens is that they pack for themselves. Items that are entirely inappropriate. But my gosh, I need to pick my battles, and I’d rather save up my “no’s” for issues like beer bongs.

Jim Graham said it like this: Major on the Majors. Of course you have to decide what is a major to your family but if you fought every battle that became available you would be very tired and battle worn.